System Thinking —When Can Someone Be Mature?
C’est La Vie/ Perhaps That’s Been The Story of Life
I just want to write some thoughts today.
From a psychological point of view, the hallmark of a person’s maturity is the ability to see the world from more diverse and integrated perspectives and to have a relatively more complex self. Golden Allport designed 6 criteria for the mature personality
- Extension of the sense of self/ Being able to look at yourself positively but objectively and realistically
- Warm relating to self to others: trust, empathy, tolerance, etc/ able to establish intimate relationships with others
- Have a sense of humor/very insightful into one’s own behavior
- Emotional Security or Self-acceptance
- Realistic perception of the environment/Having common sense
- Unifying philosophy of life
The person’s maturity depends on his level of self-development. It refers to “how complex a person’s experience of himself and the world can be”. In other words, the ego is a series of “collections of ego mechanisms”. How much awareness and tolerance of the complexity of the world and relationships? How complex of emotions can we have?
The process of self-development is continuous. However, the level of self-development and age are no longer necessarily related.
Jane Loevinger designed a model for us to understand the stages of ego development.
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